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October 22, 2017 By Beckett Hanan

Why I’m Ready for Modern Western Christianity to End

People in America are leaving Evangelical Fundamentalist Christianity in droves. Many are recording their stories and sharing them with #EmptyThePews to make a statement about how toxic the Church was for them.

Those who don’t get it (and who often spend time and energy trying to cover up abuse in the church and gaslighting those who experience abuse) blame it on our weak relationships to God, our undying love for sin, the incredibly tempting fallen world they’re so afraid of…

But honestly? We just don’t buy into the bullshit anymore.

Brené Brown says that “Faith without vulnerability creates extremism. Spirituality is inherently vulnerable. It’s believing in things we don’t fully understand and can’t see.”

I think the church has been in a perpetual vulnerability crisis for a very long time. They try to throw small groups and pancake breakfasts and camping trips at it, but it’s not going to make a difference.

Here’s why: To thrive, the Church depends on a delicate balance between the illusion that they can help you achieve a perfect life and reminders about your state of utter brokenness. It’s a marketing tactic as old as time. They sell you on the idea that you have a problem so they can sell you their solution.

But actual vulnerability, which is completely essential to have any semblance of community, is too messy. Not only does it make us uncomfortable, because it makes us face our own shortcomings and insecurities, it’s impossible to gain huge amounts of influence and make millions of dollars when people are being messy and real in your congregation. (And I openly challenge any reader of this article to show me a place that disproves that.)

So instead they say:

“Conform. Then we’ll love you.”

“Change. Then we’ll accept you.”

“Submit. Then we’ll value you.”

“Serve. Then we’ll let you speak.”

“Stop asking questions. Then we’ll let you lead.”

They try to force you into the Christian Lifestyle the moment you join. The push to perform is ever-present. If you’re lucky, you’ve got maybe 6-12 months to work out your shit and ask questions after you get saved and after that you’re expected to perform. It actually doesn’t matter if you look anything like Jesus as long as you look like you’re “living the Christian life” – which you’d think would be praying, reading your bible, and evangelizing… but in reality it just means showing up to church fairly often, speaking the local Christianese, and posting cute pictures of yourself and your boy/girlfriend or your spouse on social media with bible verses or vague ramblings about how blessed you are and how good God is.

And if they catch you slipping up, if they catch you truly questioning whether the bible is the Word of God, whether Jesus was actually God in the flesh, whether God gives a flying fuck if you have sex before marriage, or whether hell is a real place, they’ll eat you alive. (Or if you’re lucky, they’ll suddenly ghost on you and never speak to you again, even if you reach out to connect with them.)

This brand of Christianity has become an a thinly veiled capitalistic empire and I believe the entire framework of it is broken beyond repair.

We have been told to give our money, our time, our entire selves and identities up for a Church that refuses to call us family unless we change.

We are too insecure, too queer, too old, too poor, too ugly, too needy, too mentally ill… We’re not white enough, not middle-class enough, not straight enough, not submissive or assertive enough, not attractive or talented or young or fun enough…

Have you ever wondered why it’s so easy for them to disqualify us?

Because it’s extremely important that the Church keeps up the illusion that they’re doing good so they can keep profiting from our ignorance.

And if you’re really going to do that well, you’ve got to weed out all the people who want to show up and be a part of your community that make you look bad. So rather than lift up the broken and help the needy, they invite and promote the people who are really good at pretending they’ve got their shit together. The pretty, young, white, married straight couples with cute kids. The kinds of people who don’t make you uncomfortable when you see them on stage, or when they sit next to you on a Sunday morning. The kinds of people who, even in private small group settings, will dutifully shut down anyone who questions the Church or the Bible too much with a fake smile as they shift uncomfortably in their seats.

People who will willing submit themselves to a system that lets a few people who are nearly all middle-aged, heterosexual, cisgender, white men make millions, unchallenged, while claiming tax-exempt status and pretending that they’re successful because God favours them.

That pretends they are not simply running a business in which they profit off of people’s fears and need to feel good about themselves.

That guilt trips people into donating to these businesses, in addition to buying their products…lining their pockets while they claim they’re just “doing the work of the Lord”.

That gives leaders the audacity to claim that their wealth and status are a direct implication of their authority on the identity and character of God.

And that quietly suggests that these wealthy celebrities desperately need your money and your time. That you couldn’t possibly invest it in a better way than by giving it to these God-ordained leaders because they know what’s best.

It asks that you give everything you have to the one at the top who is already too famous to ever have time to speak to you, and whose employees and volunteers are tired of being faced with hordes of needy people they aren’t equipped to help apart from an empty prayer and meaningless platitudes that “it’ll get better if you just believe”.

They pretend that when they say “give all you have!” it’s an invitation to serve God and your community… not to simply build the head pastor a bigger house and a fancier church building with flashier lights and a more expensive sound system so they can continue their circle-jerk instead of offering genuine help to people.

And we’re over it.

Does this church do some good in the world? Of course. But the good does not erase the bad.

We’re done with the perpetual bait and switch, where the carrot is always held out just a little farther in front of your face. We have realized that a far more accurate message from the Church when we landed on their doorstep would have been:

“All are welcome…to give us far more than we will ever give you in return.”

And now we’re here. Outside the four walls of the church. Unsure of how to interact with the real world much of the time because we’ve been so incredibly insulated from it for so long. And we’re doing what many of us call “deconstructing”. We’re confronting the fact that we were deceived. No matter how much we gave, no matter how many times we let the church treat us like doormats, we were never going to get anything remotely comparable in return.

I’ve read that “there is only one language that people in broken systems understand, and that is power. The only way to successfully deal with a broken system is to walk away from it. It cannot be fixed from the inside by anybody but the system’s controllers and architects, and they by definition do not want to lose a single bit of the power they’ve clawed out for themselves.” (http://www.patheos.com/blogs/rolltodisbelieve/2017/08/27/why-emptythepews-important/)

Many of us have turned our backs on the Church, or even God, because the pain is so great that for our own health we need to step away.

Others, like me, are driven to see this Empire dismantled, and have healed enough that on our good days we are ready to do something about it.

Do I believe a phoenix can rise from the ashes of the Church? Something that looks remotely like Jesus? Perhaps.

Should it? I’m honestly not sure.

Author’s note: I’m sure this critique could be equally applied to a number of other organized religions. Institutionalized religion seems to do more harm than good across the board. I’m focusing on Christianity because my experience with it is so deeply personal. Not just because of my direct experience but that of hundreds, if not thousands of friends and acquaintances who’ve been abused, manipulated, neglected, and betrayed by the church.

 

Beck Hanan is a super queer Jack of all Trades frequently trying to become a master of some. He desperately needs variety in his life…so he spends the majority of his time running or helping manage a smattering of companies, websites, blogs and facebook pages that are all quite different from each other.

He is passionate about advocating for people of colour, the LGBTQIA+ community, and women, among a variety of other marginalized and oppressed people groups, in ways that help push the conversation forward, though at times he is guilty of publishing angry rants on Facebook that he later wishes he’d sat on for longer before deciding to post them.

He is in the middle of a massive spiritual and religious deconstruction and identifies as an atheist, an agnostic, and a progressive Christian most days, often simultaneously. He lives in the Portland, OR area with his lovely wife Bre and their fluffy toy poodle Charles Wallace.

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October 10, 2017 By Beckett Hanan

When Christianity Loses its Magic

You know that feeling you get when something you were really invested in and believed in as a kid turns out to not be that magical when you experience it as an adult?

Maybe it was a fast food burger and fries, the feeling of Christmas Eve, or a tree you used to read books in.

Things often lose their magic as you get older because all the experiences you’ve had have given them context, and generally speaking, these experiences are likely to make you feel more cynical about the world.

This is how I feel about Christianity.

The church as I knew it (or desperately tried to believe it was) is dead to me.

The God I was raised to believe in is dead to me.

As children, we’re pretty naive. We tend to take the things told to us by the adults we trust pretty seriously, and we tend to trust more easily the younger we are.

Then we grow up and we realize the world is a lot more complex than we were told it was. We realize that growing up and being free to make our own decisions isn’t as wonderful as we thought it would be when we were little. We realize that if we want to be the thing we always dreamed of being, it’s most likely going to mean years of really hard work, and there’s a decent chance we’ll never make it and have to settle for something else. We realize that loving people is actually pretty difficult, and life kinda sucks.

I grew up in the church, or perhaps I should say “churches”. We had a church we went to on Sundays, churches we visited when speakers were in town or in neighboring areas, the churches I went to on Wednesday nights for youth groups, and other churches we visited for various events. The common thread between every place we visited was that it was Protestant, Evangelical, Fundamentalist, and politically Conservative, and they were always led by white, cisgender, heterosexual, middle-aged men. Many of the places were also some degree of Charismatic or Pentecostal. Every friend or acquaintance I made everywhere I went was going to be Christian, and as a result, my worldview was very limited.

The craziest part was, everything I learned told me over and over again that it was incredibly obvious that everything in the bible was an absolute fact, and that the way it was meant to be interpreted was quite black and white. There was no room for questioning or disagreement on most topics. Anyone who tried to question things in church was quickly shut down and it was made obvious that they should know better.

I was told that Adam and Eve were real people who cast the earth into a state of evil because they listened to a talking snake. I was told that God committed and condoned multiple mass genocides because he was just. I was told that people who don’t say a string of specific words will spend an eternal afterlife burning in flames, and that people who do utter these magic words will get new bodies and worship God and be happy and perfect for the rest of eternity.

I was also homeschooled – not necessarily with the goal of sheltering me, but because it was the best learning set-up for me. However, nearly all of the textbooks and teaching materials were “Christian”. This means my science books tried to uphold the Young Earth Creationist view (which holds that the earth is only 6,000 years old and that evolution cannot possibly be true) with every chance they got. The overarching theme of everything I learned was one that reinforced a black and white moral code, an inerrant Bible, and a human species destined for hell at the start by original sin, but then wonderfully redeemed by a Middle-Eastern man who for some reason was always depicted as white.

As a kid, I had no desire to do anything I was told not to do. I was never interested in alcohol, drugs, or sex. Probably to the great relief of my parents, I preferred spending time on the computer or reading books to going to parties or sleeping around.

Because I had an easy time not breaking the rules, it wasn’t difficult for me to accept that they were probably a pretty decent guideline. Until my friends started coming to me and telling me the things they’d done wrong…the rules they’d broken…and I saw the fear and shame in their eyes.

They begged me not to judge them, though they already knew I wouldn’t. After all, that’s why they were telling me and not someone else. There were many things they didn’t share with me, as I was the most naive of the entire group in terms of understanding how the world worked, but looking back in a strange way I feel like I took the role of Priest. It seemed like they saw me as the blameless one. Maybe if they could tell me the worst things they’d done and I didn’t judge them, but felt compassion and listened and then tried to help them figure out what to do next, they could feel like God would forgive them too.

Every time I had a friend come to me, deeply ashamed of something they’d done, there was something that didn’t sit right with me. So many times they would say things like “Do you think I’m still a virgin if we did X?” and “Do you think God is mad at me?” and most importantly “you have to promise not to tell anyone”.

Their greatest fears were things like their bodies being seen as dirty and used because they were told that their value was wrapped up in their lack of sexual activity (a message that was pretty exclusively only sent to the girls I knew), or being seen as “dangerous” to their Christian friends because of things like their sexual orientation or their doubts that God existed.

When I saw how much shame they were experiencing because they were “breaking the rules”, regardless of whether the rule-breaking actually did any harm, I started to question the system that set them up to believe that things like pre-marital sex would destroy their lives forever and make the all-powerful, omnipotent God angry and likely to punish them.

Even more disturbing, I had friends come to me often saying “I can’t seem to get myself to read my bible/go to church/pray/evangelize enough.” This too came with heaps of shame. They believed that their relationship with God and thereby their value as a person was being determined by outside peers and leaders who put pressure on them to prove they were “good Christians”.

When I was first delving into the more Holy Spirit-focused/Charismatic sects of Christianity about 10 years ago, people were constantly (far more than in classic evangelical fundamentalist denominations) emphasizing relationship over religion, to the point where “religion” as they described it was seen as a bad thing. They talked about how a belief system centered on following laws and rules and trying to be good enough would always feel empty and dead. They talked about how God was actually good, and they allowed a lot more freedom for people to be themselves.

I liked the movement away from a law and punishment model. I liked the emphasis on God’s goodness, though they still tended to remind people that the God of the Old Testament was indeed very angry, and that Jesus came and was punished in our place by that Angry Father God rescued us from his wrath for good.

I was sick of hearing pastors telling me I was a sinful worm and that I was lucky God even gave a shit about me. I always thought they were full of shit anyway. It was good to hear this new crowd emphasizing a God who thought I was awesome. I also enjoyed the openness to people getting different things out of the Bible at different times rather than trying to pretend it always “said” one specific thing.

I thought maybe I’d finally found people who I felt were at least trying to model their lives after the Jesus they said they followed.

And yet even though these people who I felt had a healthier perspective of God taught a lot of healthier alternatives to typical fundamentalist doctrine, in many ways their actions are no different. The degree to which they use scripture to dehumanize and condemn people who don’t look like them is appalling. I am at a point in my life where I’ve been betrayed and wounded to a degree I never thought possible – not only because of what’s been done to me personally or the layers of lies I was taught as if they were unquestionable fact, but because of the hundreds of stories I’ve been told and have heard and read of the damage that’s been done to others in the name of the Christian God.

These people told me we were family. They told me they would love me no matter what happened. Then they turned around and publicly harassed me because of who I was dating.

They told me that because they were honourable, it was their core value to honour all people, rather than only giving it to those who seemed deserving of honour. And then they turned around and attacked the LGBTQ+ community, calling gay people a “violation of design” and blatantly stating that we cannot follow Jesus or have the Holy Spirit.

They championed people having different perspectives and revelations of scripture and yet made sure they carefully filtered out the voices of all LBGTQ+ Christians to ensure only one narrative gets heard.

They spent months teaching us how to understand scripture in context and how to properly research the meanings behind each word in its original language. They told us again and again how important it was…and then looked at their current translation of the bible and said, “It says homosexuality is bad right here. That settles it.”

They talked about serving without expectation making a way for you to use your gifts in the church…but forget to mention that it was entirely conditional and that if I loved someone with the “wrong genitals” I would be completely disqualified and all of my training and service would be rendered useless.

And to top it all off, head leadership publicly championed Donald Trump as a man of character…

When I went to speak at a vigil on the Texas Capital steps after the Orlando Pulse shooting and then walked with the crowd to a larger vigil on 4th St. in downtown Austin – a group or 4 or 5 people with signs came to the edge of the crowd and started yelling at us to “turn or burn”. In the middle of one of the most grievous events in our recent history as a queer community, the fact that they believed it was their job not to grieve with us but to judge us speaks volumes.

For over a year now, on a weekly or daily basis, I’ve been faced with direct attacks from Christians on myself, the people who matter to me, and people who are like me. With every blow, my usual optimism and positivity has been worn farther and farther down. Sometimes it’s from people who were close to me. Other times it’s from strangers who feel the need to spread their hatred publicly on social media or through laws that discriminate against people like me and take away our rights.

Although I’m using the example of the LGBTQ+ community as it’s personal to me, I see Christians persistently dehumanizing and judging women, people of colour, sex workers, people with mental illnesses, the homeless and those living in poverty…

And at this point in my life, the only rational conclusion I can come to is that in many cases, Christianity does more harm than good.

I don’t care if you think you’re giving people the answers to life, the universe, and everything if you’re leaving a pile of bodies in your wake.

I never thought I would find myself needing to use everything I learned in church about loving your enemy, forgiving 70 x 7, and turning the other cheek, on the church.

I never thought I would need God most when the church turned their backs on me and caused me the deepest pain I’ve ever experienced.

I never thought I’d find real community until I abandoned the religious people who kept trying to tell me they were my community despite the fact that they didn’t give two shits about my life outside of “serving God” by participating their pre-approved religious activities.

I never realized that I would find the deepest love among the very people Jesus spent most of his time with – the people on the fringes who break the gender binary, who reject the idea that we must be either saint or sinner, who are oppressed, who fight to raise up those who don’t have a voice, who are okay with questioning everything, who are okay with a God who doesn’t rule the world with an iron fist and a black and white list of rules, who reject a God who is cruel and condemning, who are okay with admitting that nothing is certain when it comes to the divine, who don’t assume that everyone needs to connect with God the way they do…

But this where I’m at right now. And I have to say that despite losing the magic I thought I had found in Christianity, I’ve found far more in this community of misfits, heretics, and gender outlaws where I can be my honest self than I ever found within the four walls of a church building.

And honestly? There’s no place I’d rather be.

 

 

Beck Hanan is a super queer Jack of all Trades frequently trying to become a master of some. He desperately needs variety in his life on a regular basis and runs or helps manage a few companies, a couple of websites, and a handful of blogs and facebook pages at once – all quite different from each other – to help meet this need.

He is passionate about advocating for people of colour, the LGBTQIA+ community, and women, among a variety of other marginalized and oppressed people groups, in ways that help push the conversation forward, though at times he is guilty of publishing angry rants on Facebook that he later wishes he’d sat on for longer before deciding to post them.

He is in the middle of a massive spiritual and religious deconstruction and identifies as an atheist, an agnostic, and a Christian most days, often simultaneously. He lives in the Portland, OR area with his lovely wife Bre and their fluffy toy poodle Charles Wallace.

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